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doing our husbands good

I was thrilled to be able to write an article for the Radiant Hearts Magazine! I normally write the Hymn History articles, but this issue I actually wrote on the topic — A Proverbs 31 Woman. If you haven’t heard of RHM, you can learn more in this post, where Leona graciously allowed me to interview her and ask her questions about the magazine :D

There are so many facets to a Proverbs 31 woman, and so many things we can glean from her. Today, dear sisters, I’d like to encourage you to think about one particular aspect, and one word that I believe is all too often overlooked. In Proverbs 31:11 – 12, we read, “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that she shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” To understand the first part of verse 11, “the heart of her husband doth safely trust in her” we must understand verse 12: “she will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” The goal of any godly wife should be that her husband can safely trust her, no matter the situation or the circumstances. And the foundation of that trust should be being built right now, this very moment. 

Lest you are going to bombard me with statements about not yet being married, being single, being young, or the fact that you are as far from being married as the earth is from the moon, let me explain myself. The keyword is the little three letter “all” right in the middle of verse 12. We are to do our husbands good and not evil ALL the days of our lives — even the days when we are waiting, before meeting him, when we are still young and learning. “How,” you may ask, “am I do good to my husband when I have no idea who he even is?!?” Well, I want to share with you a couple of things that I have learned, as an unmarried, twenty-three year old lady. I’m going to share different aspects of doing our husbands good all the days of our lives — and I’m going to try to keep it in three different categories. 

Spiritually do our Husbands Good  

How can we do our husbands good in a spiritual aspect? The most important way I can think of is to pray for him, fervently and sincerely. You may not know what he needs prayer for specifically, but the Bible teaches us that the Spirit makes intercession for us when we don’t know how to pray (Rom. 8:26), and we know the effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much (James 5:16). There are several “prayer schedules” you can find online, to aid you and give you ideas of how to pray. Praying for my husband has led into me praying for my future children and grandchildren, and praying for them helps to think outside of the here and now of the moment and to think generationally about the legacy I am leaving behind as each minute of the day passes by. Learning to pray for our husbands and children now, while we are young, helps us learn the habit of praying and communing with our heavenly Father; a habit which will be very beneficial throughout our whole lives, whether we ever marry, or whether we remain single. I have been praying for my husband since I was about thirteen, and I quickly tired of the superficial, “Lord be with the man who will be my husband and bless him today” type of prayers — so I challenged myself to actually be as specific as possible. Some specific ways I have prayed for my husband include: 

His study of the Word. I pray the Lord will give him a faithfulness to immerse himself in God’s word everyday, and that the Lord will guide and direct my husband to rightly divide the Word aright (2 Tim. 2:5). 

I pray for him at his work. Whether he works an office job, as an entrepreneur, or as a missionary, I pray that whatsoever my husband does, will be done for the glory of God and not for his own personal gain (Col. 3:23), and that he will be faithful to tell others he comes in contact with about the gospel.  

I pray that my husband will have a guard around his heart, to protect him from the “strange” woman Proverbs 7 describes. That he will have accountability and safeguards in place, and great discretion as he goes about his daily life. I pray that the Lord will keep him from stumbling and falling, as so many do in today’s culture.

I pray that my husband has a humble, teachable spirit and that he is surrounded by a multitude of wise counselors (Prov. 11:14; 15:22) willing to speak truth into his life (1 Pet. 5:5; Prov. 9:9). 

When I started, it seemed a bit odd to be praying for some random guy that I had never met — so I started writing down my prayers, and what the Lord had taught me, and the important things in my life I wanted him to know. Perhaps this would help you, as well, to focus your thoughts. And one day, Lord willing, it will be fun to go through it with him and see how many times the Lord answered the prayers I was praying with me never knowing. By doing this, my husband can trust me . . . . . .

To read the rest of this post, click here: RHM — Winter Issue or visit and click on the cover of the magazine. Then come back, and let me know what you think. Do you pray for your husbands? What other ways can you do your husbands good, right now, while you are still young?

I’d highly encourage you to subscribe to the magazine — I am always encouraged through reading what my fellow sisters in Christ are learning :D

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I am a 23 year old young lady who is redeemed and saved from my sin only by the grace of God. A bibliophile at heart with a love of history who desires to see the Word of God practically applied to all aspects of our daily lives -- in our homes, in the grocery store, in the political realm. I strive to put my jumbled, chaotic thoughts down onto paper -- reducing them into black and white rows, letters, sentences. Into some semblance of sanity. And I share them here with all of you, where I can challenge you, make you think, and cause you to ask questions. I am the oldest of eleven children living the country life in the deep south.

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