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Why I Couldn’t Be Anywhere but Home

When I decided against going to college when I graduated from my home education two years ago, I knew I was embarking on an adventure. I knew there would be trials, and fun times, and questions to answer, and a whole new level of home-keeping to learn.

I am so glad my parents have supported and encouraged me to stay at home. I have always known there is no other place I would rather be.

But recently I know I could never be anywhere but home. During this season in my life, when I have so many little siblings in so many different stages of development, I would miss so much of their lives. Yes, I desire marriage — a husband who fears God and children of my own — but it is easy to rest content in His will when I see all that I would be missing out on in the family I have right now. That’s not to say that I wouldn’t excitedly say yes to marriage if it was revealed as the Lord’s will tomorrow, but that I am content right here where the Lord has me right now.

I would miss teaching a little brother to read, and the excitement when he reads his first book by himself — and the excitement as he reads his “second first book” =)

I wouldn’t be able to help plan wedding showers, baby showers, get-togethers, or help to prepare for them all — I would be much too busy preparing papers and reports and studying to make time.

I wouldn’t be able to stop and learn how to do a dance with a sister.

I would miss out on the projects my siblings are doing in their lessons.

I would never see the forts my little brothers build, or be able to stop what I am doing when they come to get me to see the “Jamestown” they have created in out living room, using lincoln logs, blocks, legos, and Indian and settler figures.

I would never hear them processing what they have learned in what can be hilarious conversations. Never hear a little brother I am teaching math to explain the concept to an even younger sister, receiving the affirmation that he did, indeed, understand everything I said and I wasn’t just speaking to the air :-)

I wouldn’t have time to read a book to a sick little brother.

I would miss helping my sister plan her graduation.

I would have missed out on explaining to a brother the differences between one decade and the next, and the difference between a decade and a millennium — and how Dad, Mom, two of my sisters, and myself aren’t all the same age because we were born in the 1900’s — just like everyone else in our family wasn’t the same age because they were all born in the 2000’s. (And that was harder to explain than I thought!!! My sister and I drew diagrams, talked about it, and finally pulled Dad in on it…)

I would not have the opportunity to study what I want to study — natural healing methods, doula certification, gardening, living off the land.

In short, I wouldn’t have the opportunity to become all that my Creator has made me to become. He placed me where He has for a reason, and I am to trust Him, lean on Him, and follow where He guides.

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I am a 23 year old young lady who is redeemed and saved from my sin only by the grace of God. A bibliophile at heart with a love of history who desires to see the Word of God practically applied to all aspects of our daily lives -- in our homes, in the grocery store, in the political realm. I strive to put my jumbled, chaotic thoughts down onto paper -- reducing them into black and white rows, letters, sentences. Into some semblance of sanity. And I share them here with all of you, where I can challenge you, make you think, and cause you to ask questions. I am the oldest of eleven children living the country life in the deep south.


  • JES

    This is a wonderful way to look at things! Home is precious and I pray he blesses your efforts! I like the idea of the doula certification too. The sisterhood would be blessed to have a believer by her side when giving birth! :) Thank you for sharing this week on the Art of Home-Making Mondays :)

  • Dolly @ Young Homemakers

    I grew up as an only child, but my mother grew up as the second oldest girl in a family of 10 children, so reading this post reminds me of the stories she always shared with me of looking after her younger brothers and sisters! What a blessing to be at home!

    • The Modest Maiden

      Yes — it is truly a blessing to be able to be home! Many are called, but few are chosen to such a life, and it is only by the Lord’s grace that I am able to be where I am right now! Thank you for stopping by!

  • Stephanie

    My dear girl, this post was absolutely precious! It’s such a delight to “meet” young ladies who desire God’s best. I love how you said, ” I wouldn’t have the opportunity to become all that my Creator has made me to become. ” Amen!

    Thank you for being such a blessed testimony to so many! And thank you for sharing with Roses of Inspiration. Hugs and joy to you!

    • The Modest Maiden

      It is only through the work of the Lord that I even have a desire to be at home with my family…Thank you for the sweet comment! And I agree — it always refreshing to meet others who long after Christ and His ways. Few have been chosen for such a life, and I am SO thankful that the Lord has me where He does right now!

  • Roxy

    Hello, What a lovely post and I so enjoyed reading your precpective on staying home. I do hope all your dreams and hopes come true! May God bless your willingness and obedience to Him…
    Hugs, Roxy

    • The Modest Maiden

      I am glad you enjoyed reading this — it is only by God’s grace that I am able to stay at home, and I do desire to bring Him glory through spending my single years at home…Thank you for stopping by!

  • alisa

    What a sweet spirit you have! As a mother of 5 children, I pray that they will see their siblings as blessings as you do! It is so true that you cannot get this time back. I pray God will supernaturally bless you as you lay down your life to serve others. Linking up with you at Monday’s Musings.

    • The Modest Maiden

      Thank you for your sweet comment and your prayers! It is only by the grace of the Lord working in my life that I am able to see my siblings as a blessing, and not as a burden, and that I even desire to be at home. As a friend once shared with me, many are called to follow Christ, but few are chosen for this task of staying at home…and I am blessed that the Lord has called me to do so!

  • Mrs. R

    This was a blessing to read! I did the same at your age & stayed home until marriage. Many people could not understand my decision to stay home, especially when I was eligible for a scholarship based on my grade point average.
    I was thankful I was able to stay home and strengthen my homemaking skills & have the opportunities to be with and help out my family.
    This helped me when I got married and was taking care of my own home and husband.
    Many people think if you’re not in college you are not furthering your education. It couldn’t be farther from the truth!
    You surely sound like your hands are full at home! What a blessing for you and your family!
    God bless :)

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